No Worries, BXTCHES. . .They’re Just Words!

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BXTCHES Gotta Warn: Okay, surely no one really thought that the Donald’s latest ode to women everywhere was just gonna pass by with me keeping the ole’ trap shut. . .oh no, I have plenty to say about the Orange Leathered One, I just had to let his comments marinate in my cloud before I could break my thoughts down into words. But now that I have been able to do that, let’s take this on. So, without really a great warning to issue, let’s dive right into the locker room, shall we?

(Trump)“I moved on her like a bitch, but I couldn’t get there. And she was married,”. . .“Then all of a sudden I see her, she’s now got the big phony tits and everything. She’s totally changed her look.”

(Bush)“Your girl’s hot as s—, in the purple,” 

(Trump)“Whoa!”. . .“Whoa!”

(Trump)“I’ve got to use some Tic Tacs, just in case I start kissing her,”. . .“You know I’m automatically attracted to beautiful — I just start kissing them. It’s like a magnet. Just kiss. I don’t even wait.”

(Trump)“And when you’re a star, they let you do it,”. . .“You can do anything.”

(?Bush)“Whatever you want,” 

(Trump)“Grab them by the pussy,”. . .“You can do anything.”

 

LOCKER ROOM TALK:

I should first say that I haven’t been in a men’s locker room in some time, so I’m not sure if this is really a thing men hang out and discuss, but regardless, let’s travel down the Locker Room Road for a bit. If I, as a woman, decide to give that excuse any sort of merit, I would also have to give the following argument. If men actually hang out in locker rooms and conversations are taking place like the one above (and if that’s the case, you may need to re-evaluate your life), shouldn’t that have stopped back when he was like, 20? He made these comments at the age of 59. Or stopped at the very least, once he was married. . .and had a pussy of his very own, or at the absolute latest, when his wife gave birth to a daughter? Doesn’t that life event usually trigger something in a man? Something that makes even the most obscene womanizer re-evaluate the way he has treated women up to that point, playing back anytime he felt he may have shown disrespect, knowing that he would never want someone to treat his own flesh and blood with the same attitude that he has treated women with. Because the way karma works is this. . .him standing around talking about “grabbing women by the pussy”, means some man, somewhere, is saying the same thing about his daughters.

THAT’S JUST HOW MEN TALK:

Are you FUCKING kidding me with this excuse. This is by far worse than the “locker room”. I’m shocked to my core with how many social media posts that have chalked it up with “that’s just how men talk”. Is it? Is it really? Your husband/boyfriend/brother/father speaks this way? If that excuse gets to be thrown around without any responsibility, then I get to say the following. Any woman who even gave that excuse consideration, much less used it. . .you’re membership to the Ya-Ya is now revoked. If this is actually how men talk, and you women think that it is a viable excuse, are you raising your sons to speak the same way? Are you allowing the father of your children to teach your son this kind of “talk”? You’re okay with your husband hanging with his boys while talking about “grabbing pussies”, one that doesn’t belong to you? Because if your son or husband spoke the way Trump did and you just wave it off as “just how men talk”, then you are creating a very dangerous culture for any future woman that may attach herself to your son. When your daughter comes home and cries to you about a boy at school bragging to his friends about how he is going to “grab her by the pussy”, are you going to tell her to shake it off, because that’s “just how men talk honey”? Better yet, let’s pretend that your daughter has already heard you excuse Trump and the sexual assault he brags about, do you really think that if someone speaks about your daughter in a non-consensual way that she is going to come to you for help?

 

A BXTCHES REAL THOUGHTS:

The words that Trump spoke do not offend me. The word pussy doesn’t cause me to blink an eye, hell, the “c” word barely sends shudders through me. Talking about sex doesn’t make me cringe, I can dirty talk with the best of motherfuckers, just mosey on over to BXTCHES Be Reading and you’ll see for yourself, probably more than you’re comfortable with. So no, it’s not the words that he used, it’s the assault value within the words. I should take the time to say this, who really fucking grabs pussies? What the fuck? No female wants her pussy grabbed. Is that why he has to force himself on women? Because he doesn’t actually know how to treat a pussy. Lesson #1: don’t grab them, it’s not a bag of chips or a bottle of water. . .it’s precious as fuck and deserves to be treated like the goddamn treasure she is. 

“I just start kissing them. It’s like a magnet. Just kiss. I don’t even wait.”

“And when you’re a star, they let you do it,”. . .“You can do anything.”

“Grab them by the pussy,”. . .“You can do anything.”

 

This doesn’t require an expert in language, this is to the point, there is no need to read between the lines, Trump is saying what it is he does. This isn’t just talking (which is bad enough), this is bragging about sexually assaulting women. Just so we’re clear, he’s not bragging about the women that he has bedded (with consent), he’s not complimenting women, both of which he could’ve easily done, he is actually boasting about sexual assault and why not. . .he is a celebrity after all.

There’s a lot of talk about how these comments were made eleven years ago and by a private citizen and they shouldn’t be used in attacks against him now. No, he was not a private citizen, he was most certainly a public one, he did brag about being a celebrity, which by status alone, puts you in the eye of the public. But let’s break it down further. Let’s say a teacher, that’s a profession that impacts young minds, has influence within the community, has some sort of standard bearer when it comes to morals and values. . .let’s pretend that a male teacher is caught on tape, saying the exact words that spewed from Trump’s vile mouth. . .a male teacher who teaches your daughter. . .does he still have a job? Do you want your daughter staying after school to be tutored by him? 

For those of you who suck from the Trump teet, would you have the same reaction if it were 2012 and audio surfaced of Obama bragging about how he was gonna “grab a white girl by her pussy”. . .are they just words then?. . .is it just guys hanging out in the locker room?. . .does he get to say “this is how guys talk”?

This kind of repugnant talk shouldn’t only offend those with daughters or wives, moms and sisters,  it’s the kind of revolting behavior that should disgust all of us. Aren’t we better than this? This man is the kind of leadership you want for this great country? Is this what every Trump supporter means when they applaud him for being so politically incorrect? 

I think it’s now time to really get to the meat of the issue here. Sexual assault is a problem in this country, one that tends to exploit the victim rather than prosecute the assailant. A burden that we place on the shoulders of the victims. When John Kasich was asked in a town hall about sexual assault on college campuses, his advice to the young lady was to stay away from parties with a lot of alcohol. I sure he meant well in his answer, but we tell our daughters to travel in groups. . .don’t accept drinks from anyone. . .make your own drinks. . .don’t go with strangers alone. . .don’t wear provocative clothing. . .and when the unthinkable happens, the first questions asked to the victim are “what were you wearing?” OR “what were you doing?” OR “how much did you have to drink?”. . .here’s what we need to understand. . .it makes no difference if a young lady is at a party and makes the decision to strip every stitch of clothing from her body and climb up on someone’s dick and ride him like she is at the PBR, it’s not an invitation for anyone else to take a turn. That is what we need to be teaching our sons, instead of slut-shaming victims.

It’s this kind of behavioral acceptance and this kind of “she was asking for it” attitude that provokes a mother to write a judge a letter, begging for mercy on her son, who grabbed and placed his fingers in the genitals of an unconscious woman. These are the kinds of attitudes that encourages a judge to take mercy on that young man and sentence to him to six months (where he only served three) in jail, not prison, but jail, because he has a great future ahead of him, taking no consideration of the future that was robbed from that young lady, late one night, behind a dumpster, where some punk kid took something from her, that was never willingly given up. Maybe, just maybe, if that mother would’ve raised her son to actually respect women and to know that you only get the pussy when it’s offered to you, that woman’s life wouldn’t have been forever altered.

No Worries BXTCHES. . .They're Just Words | Musings with Merrie J | www.bxtchesbeblogging.com

And this meme alone, sums it all up. More of the “exploit the victim” attitude. Because women read novels such as Fifty Shades, then we must all be okay with someone grabbing our pussies, right? I have read this book, many times, the word “pussy” isn’t even in it. Not to mention, Christian and Ana are in a consensual, sexual relationship. There is no assault, there is no unwanted groping, but I should remind everyone that the book. . .is fiction. I know, disappointing, right?

In the time since the infamous Access Hollywood tape was released, several women have come forward and have accused Donald Trump of the very thing that he bragged about. While watching the news regarding these accusations, my husband, a staunch Clinton supporter, asked the following: “Why are these women just coming out now with this?” and before my jaw could hit the floor, Trump himself appears on the T.V. dismissing the claims because of how one of the women looked, I was then able to turn to him and say “that’s why”

I grew up watching The Cosby Show, so when all of the accusations started to surface about Bill Cosby drugging and sexually assaulting women years ago, I was devastated. Once the first claim ticked across the newsfeed, we were skeptical. Then woman after woman came forward, making the same claim. It then went from skepticism to that many women cannot be wrong. I think what we learned is. . .there is strength in numbers.

We wouldn’t vote for someone on The Voice if this type of audio was released and we heard the very same words coming from them, but people are willing to elect someone as leader of the world after hearing him say these things. There will be more accusations and for a party that bases itself smack in the middle of the Bible and claims to be the party of family values, where do you draw the line? This is so much more than words. This is so much more than our daughters and sisters and mothers and friends at stake, this type of behavior is threatening to the heartbeat of America. Right or wrong, the world is watching and I get it. . .it’s overwhelmingly mortifying to stand behind someone, debate on their behalf, just to have this fall in your lap. . .but are you forced to then defend it? Isn’t it okay to step away? The beautiful thing about our country is our diversity, we can have different ideologies, our principles don’t always have to line up on the same side of the aisle, but as Michelle Obama said “A candidate for President of the United States has bragged about sexually assaulting women”, so if you take the opinion of “they’re just words”, I beg you to ask women in your life if they have ever been groped, ever been touched, ever been spoken about with vulgar, foul language. . .ask them if “they’re just words”. Do we really want sexual assault to be a political issue. . .aren’t we better than that?

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